ThIs week it's all about the lonely ones. It's so easy for those fortunate enough to be in relationship to get caught up in the every day happy settled life where two people get to come home and share about their day and divide household responsibilities and snuggle up on the sofa and watch a movie together.
I was once very settled and content and happy in my married life. I was totally oblivious to those who might sit home on a weekend wishing they could cook dinner with someone or have a glass of wine with another human or talk at the end of a long day. I was completely unaware of how difficult it might be for someone living alone and having to bear the brunt of life on their own. Had I known, I would have reached out more, I would have checked in more, and acknowledged their aloneness.
That's the thing about compassion. It's almost impossible to truly understand a person's plight until you've experienced it for yourself. You have to know it and feel it in your own body before you can truly understand and empathize with another being.
Shortly after becoming a mom, I was hit with the realization that I never really honored or acknowledged my friends or family who had birthed children before me. I had absolutely no idea how hard it was to be a parent or how tiring it could be. If I had, I would have been more understanding. I would have reached out more and checked in on them more and offered to help.
And now here I am all these years later living alone, realizing that some of my friends have been doing this a lot longer than me and I never even acknowledged them. It never even dawned on me that they might get lonely sometimes. These friends I reference here just happen to be women; impressive beautiful women who made the single life look hip and cool and totally carefree. And yes, sometimes it's all those things, but other times it's just damn depressing and utterly exhausting.
I'm sorry for not being more aware. I wish I could turn back the clock. I would do things so differently. I love this waking up business, but with that comes some harsh realities and so here I am telling all you badass humans living alone that you're awesome. I respect the heck out of you and I'm deeply sorry for never acknowledging this before today.
We're not meant to be alone. We're meant to be in relationship, to partner, to love, to snuggle, and to share our life with someone. I wish that for everyone. I wish someone for everyone and not just anyone, but someone special, someone who sees you, who hears you, who values you and respects the hell out of you.
Social media can be hard when you see all the happy couple family stuff so when you're feeling alone, don't go there. And when you're feeling good and free and alive, just enjoy the freedom because I'm sure there are tons of married people who wish they could be single and free (temporarily anyway).
Aloneness is deeply personal and it comes and it goes. Like the tides of time. Sometimes we're just alone and other times we're just damn lonely. Either way, we have to show up and do our thing. Be present and a witness and all will unfold as it should. Call a friend. Make a date. Find something fun to do and go do it.
Teaching LIVESTREAM this Sunday.
Love & Light,
📷: Guillaume de Germain
Registration Link for Live Stream Sunday on my website
Let's be the LOVE the world needs.