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A Celebration of Life June 8, 2009

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A very dear friend of mine just lost her dad to a rare form of cancer. He battled the disease for almost 3 years and we all hoped and prayed he would pull through it, but sometimes life has other plans for us. He was a noble man who fought for his life until the bitter end and his wife dedicated every ounce of energy trying to understand the incurable disease and doing everything possible to find a treatment that would bring him back around, but the disease was too powerful. I knew there was a chance he wouldn’t make it when I first found out he was sick so I held on to hope, but sometimes hope isn’t enough.  I knew the weight it would bear on my friend and her family and the heavy grief that would follow, but there are just some things in life you can’t control and death is one of them. 

I can say that anyone who didn’t know him before knew him after, as his close friends and family did a beautiful job of capturing the greatness of his life in the eloquent eulogies spoken at his wake. He was not only a stoic man, but an incredible father, mentor, colleague, husband, partner, teacher, coach, and neighbor. He was truly an extraordinary man and accomplished both personally and professionally. He was a strong spirit who was unselfishly available for anyone who needed him. He was not a taker, but a seeker and giver and he never settled for anything less than great. His life was honored and revered in such a way that made you want to reflect on the greatness of your own life, as it’s so uncertain and we don’t have time to take it for granted or be ungrateful for all the beautiful gifts and blessings we are given. 

Nobody ever looks forward to a funeral or losing someone they love, but death is a part of life and a necessary part of the journey. In the end we just don’t know where our life will take us or how long we have to live in these delicate bodies. We can only hope that we live a long prosperous healthy life dying peacefully and without regrets because when the time comes for us to pass, we have to accept the inevitable and appreciate the life we lived.

Our death should be a true celebration of our life and not a mourning of our passing and this doesn’t mean that people won’t express their pain or sorrows in losing someone they love, but they will remember you for who you were and not what kind of home you lived in or car you drove. We don’t have time for grudges or regrets or judgments so don’t waste time or energy on things that don’t truly matter. Let go of the past and that to which you cannot change and embrace the beautiful life you are living.


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